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Wednesday, April 29, 2020

A Letter to Myself on my 50th Birthday

Dear Susan,
You are always writing letters to your children - in hopes of them one day reading them and understanding what they meant to you. Who they were at that particular time in their lives. And perhaps, learning a little bit more about the woman they call mom. You see, and you tell them this often, before you were "mom", you were Susan. 
You had an entire life before them. And struggled with so many of the same things. Perhaps more so.
The pickiest of eaters.
The moodiest of girls. 
You too were lazy and slept till noon.
Your mother before you tiptoed around in the early mornings so you could do so.
And though you hate to admit it, so many other things you do as a mother you learned from her.
Different. But the same.
Remember when you thought 50 was old?
Your beloved uncle Boris died at 50. Only now do you realize how young he was.
And with each passing year, somehow 60, 70 and beyond - well, they don't seem old anymore.

Susan, you have made mistakes. Wrong choices. 
And you will have put faith and love in many who did not deserve it.
But from each of these people, you will have learned valuable lessons. 
Somehow, through it all, you are still the most forgiving person you know.
It takes a lot for you to hold hatred. To not continue to see the good in people. To let go.
But when you finally do, you will have learned that they didn't deserve your goodness in the first place.
You will question yourself.
You will replay moments in your mind.
And you will wonder how you didn't see all of it sooner.
Today, on your 50th Birthday, you will learn that there are Judas' among us. And that you have met more than your fair share of them.

You will learn that things that happened in childhood will carry you through life.
And though they will be sometimes be foggy, your memories will be good ones.
Times at the beach.
Times waiting for your ever so social mother to come out to the car when you were all but asleep.
All the family singing.
Which you thought was so ridiculous then, will move you to tears now.
You will have cried many times about the one day loss of your parents. The mere thought of it always having been too much.
And this past year will have tried you.
You will almost have lost your beloved dad. And he will have changed. You will need to remember the man he was because he too will face his own challenges and struggles that you may not always understand.
Getting old is hard.
Your mom will have been hospitalized for far too long.
And you will see the strongest person you ever knew become weak and childlike.
You will have to juggle keeping up at home, work and hospital visits.
You will have become a caretaker.
Your roles will have reversed.
And oh, there will be a pandemic.
Susan, your first love will break you.
It will.
It has deep roots and most of them are painful. They will leave you not knowing what true love is.
They will leave you thinking it has to hurt to be love.
And you will have struggled with this for a long time.
It will make you accept less.
It will have you thinking it is o.k. 
Sometimes, it will have you thinking you deserve it.
But then, one day.
One fine day.
Someone will come along and change all that.
And only then, then, will you learn what it means to truly get and give love.
It will be worth the wait.

You are a good mother.
You will always prefer cats to dogs.
You love fresh crisp sheets and a clean house.
You love the written word and photographs.
When life is hard, you are extra nostalgic.
Of ten getting lost in memories of years gone by.
You are funny.
You always put on a brave face. Even on hard days.
And you are a good friend.
Sometimes, getting a word in with you is tough.
You talk too much.
You think too fast.
And you laugh too loud.
You love chocolate. Coffee. Cookies.
And the simplest of food.
You are social. But you love to be alone.
You are a hugger.
You are a collector.
You are a good daughter.
Today, you are 50.
Happy Birthday to you.
xo 

Friday, January 10, 2020

7 in 7 Interview with Dr. Nathan Rosen - Your Questions Answered

Today's post is sponsored by Allergan Canada. All views and opinions are strictly my own.

Following my visits to Dermetics throughout last year for all of my JUVÉDERM® filler consultations and subsequent treatments; I received a ton of questions.
Some of you DM'd through instagram.
Others emailed me.
Friends and family cornered me in person.
But resoundingly, the SAME questions were being asked by all women.

And so, this post was born.
I reached out to the incomparable Dr. Nathan Rosen from Dermetics, who personally completed all of my injections. I truly feel blessed. He is one of the best in the industry (though he would modestly deny that) and not only a true professional, but also generally awesome human.

Dr. Rosen took time out of his insane schedule to answer these questions for me and play my "7 in 7" lightening round. More on that later!
So, what were the top 3 questions I received from my readership base following that initial post?
Read on.

What questions should I ask my doctor?



What are your credentials? What is your experience? 

What are the potential complications and how would they be dealt with if they occur? Show me your before and after photos.   

Does it hurt? (!) Any side effects like swelling/bruising?

Some areas are definitely more sensitive then others,

(read: lips) however it is a lot more pleasant than a visit to the dentist AND the reward is looking and feeling better!  

Bruising and swelling are the most common side effects, however, both are usually mild and short-lived.



How does pricing work? + How long does it last? (tied)




All pricing is related and based on what you need or hope to get done and will therefore vary greatly from person to person and potentially treatment to treatment.  

Most people will look to top up an area at about the one year mark after initial treatment.  

Now that I had our famous doctor cornered, I thought it might be fun to do a lightening round of questions (including some I personally had) and he was game.
I told you he was a generally awesome human.
7 questions
7 minutes
And, GO!

 Will I look "done"? Fake?
Not if you do your research ahead of time and go to a reputable clinic, like Dermetics.

Can you do anything to lessen the pain of injections?
We use several distraction techniques and there is lidocaine, an anaesthetic agent, in the filler itself. 

If I only had the budget for one area, where would you recommend I start?
This is specific to the individuals needs. During your consultation, you will build a treatment plan with your trusted injector based on your goals and your budget.

Is any treatment area more painful than another?
  Most people find lips are the most sensitive area to treat. 

What is the biggest misconception about fillers?
You are paying for results, not for syringes of filler - so don’t shop based on price per syringe

At what age should I consider starting fillers?
When you are concerned about volume-related changes or decide that you want to prevent early signs of aging. 

I keep hearing about MD Codes™. What does it mean?
It is a unique approach to facial fillers that helps patients and doctors align in treatment goals, by first assessing emotional goals in order to help plan and execute that treatment.  

How long will the treatment last?
Depends on the area, amount and the individual, however. studies show that results with JUVÉDERM® can last up to 9-24 months, depending on the treatment chosen. 
Read more about that here.

I see advertising for fillers everywhere. Why is it important to use a medically trained physician?
This is a medical procedure, and although rare, serious complications can happen.  An expert physician injector will be able to minimize the risk and deal with complications should they occur.

 Any last piece of advice?
Do your research. Find an experienced, credentialed doctor and have a consultation.  Only go ahead if you are comfortable in their approach, and they are in line with your aesthetic.  

I sincerely thank Dr. Rosen and the team at Dermetics for treating me like I was famous from start to finish.
I couldn't imagine a better experience. Read more about JUVÉDERM® here.

xo

Friday, December 20, 2019

Holiday Ready with Juvederm

Today's post is sponsored by Allergan Canada. All views and opinions are my own.

If you follow me on instagram, you would have seen a sneak peek of my recent return visit to Dermetics in Burlington for my follow-up treatment after being treated with JUVÉDERM® 
fillers almost a year ago.
As the holiday season quickly approaches, it seemed like the absolute perfect time to make sure that not only was my wardrobe ready for the numerous events and family gatherings booked, but that my face was too.

I absolutely loved my last experience with the juvederm product and was so excited to see what the doctor thought about what we might need to do to maintain my {ahem} youthful glow.
I cannot tell you how many times friends and family would say - "you look different, better - but I can't really put my finger on what is different".
THAT. That is exactly what I was after.
My goal was, and is, always about feeling better about myself. Looking more feminine and youthful. And never looking like anything but myself, only better.
{unedited photo of my make up free face prepping for consultation and treatment}
 I was so blessed to have Dr. Rosen treat me again this go-around.
I believe, the doctor/patient relationship is so vital - he had a clear understanding of the look I am comfortable with and had a full history of what I had treated in the past.
What I loved (read: a little lip!) and what made the biggest impact on my overall appearance.

This visit was no different from my previous visit in that we reviewed and assessed what I had done since the last time I was in the clinic - followed by a thorough assessment of my skin.
We decided on what the treatment plan would be and where he would place the facial filler.
In some cases, to my surprise, areas that I had treated almost a year ago, didn't need a touch-up yet! And so, we moved forward with the nasal labial folds, each side of my chin - (left and right bottom of my face which were starting to appear saggy), a touch in each cheek and in my upper lip.

If I had to say what my very favourite part of the overall treatment process is with fillers? I would have to say be being able to see results almost instantly.
The photograph below was taken at home immediately following the visit.
If you look closely, you can see a few tiny pin prick marks where the injection sites were and a very slight bruise on my lower left side of my face.
Both of these had all but disappeared within a couple of days and were not anything I couldn't cover with a tiny bit of concealer 12 hours after the injections resulting in little to no down-time for me.
{this photo was taken the same day as treatment,}
I wanted to also share "real life" photos from before and after treatment as this is where I feel the true impact comes for me. Images on the left show me as less firm and almost hollow in areas whereas images on the right show skin as much more taut and I see a significant difference around the bottom of my face where the overall jaw line appears smoother.
Can you spot the very slight bit of filler in the lip area?
Not meant to appear overdone,but rather, just used to even out the entire appearance.
I am super pleased with the results and SO ready to get the holiday festivities started.

Have you ever tried facial fillers?
Would love to hear about your experience!
To learn more and find a clinic near you, click here.
xo 

Friday, December 6, 2019

Friday Favourites : Cutetitos

With all the goings on this time of year, I haven't found any time (yet!) to put together my annual Christmas Gift Guides.
But that doesn't mean I'm not thinking about Christmas! Oh no, no, no.
In fact, we've been choosing favourite gifts all year long - and these little bundles of sweetness are no exception.
A stuffy wrapped in a burrito-like blanket?
Sign us up.
Cutetitos (even the name is cute n'est pas?) are adorably soft and include 12 new characters for your littles to collect.

Ava was so excited about these - she agreed to do her first video review.
Bear with us as we learn through the process but I couldn't help but share this cuteness!





Cutetitos and their younger counterparts, Babitos, are available in major retailers across the country including Toys R Us, Walmart and Chapters.
Priced between $6.97 - $14.97 they make THE perfect stocking stuffer!

Happy Shopping.
xo

Monday, November 25, 2019

A Little Leopard

Excited to share the third and final outfit in the series of featured looks by Canadian brand and retail store Cleo with you today.
{Click to see looks one + two here}
This camel cardigan has been on heavy rotation already - equally cute with jeans and a turtleneck as it is with this pull on (!) leopard print skirt.
I'm loving the slightly longer length with boots which easily transitions for the office with a black opaque tight and simple pumps.




cardigan - c/o Cleo | leopard print skirt - c/o Cleo 
If you've never shopped Cleo, I suggest having a peek in time for Black Friday.
The deals are crazy good {read: this skirt is on for under $25} and include a different item at 50% off daily.
Happy Shopping indeed.
xo 

Sunday, October 20, 2019

Twenty One : Dear Izzy

 Dear Izzy,
It surely can't be that my sweet baby girl, the one who blessed me all those years ago, is twenty one today?
I stare at you sometimes.
When you're staring intently at the tv - or at your phone - 
I still sometimes can't believe you are mine.
You see, even though I am your mama, I'm still just a girl. Still someone who is trying to figure it out.
And trying not to mess up you, your brother and sister in the process. #truth

As women, we are just expected to know how to do it all Izzy.
To be strong - to be able to handle EVERYTHING.
But the truth is, we don't have to.
It's ok to ask for help. It's ok to not know what to do next. It's ok to mess up.
You are far too hard on yourself some days sweet girl.
I see how much you want to do well.
Do what's right. "Figure it all out".
But here I am, at forty nine, still trying to do just that.
And its OK.
It's more than OK.

You have far more discipline than I ever had at your age.
Likely more than I have today.
And for that, you will see, you will be whoever you want to be - do whatever you want to do.
If I've learned something in all of my years - it's that no amount of anything equals pure passion and hard work.
And this, you have.
Everything else will come in time.
This I promise you.

My Izzy, if I could have but one wish for you on your twenty-first birthday?
It would be that you enjoy every moment.
Big or small.
And to realize that things that seem so devastatingly important today.
Will mean nothing in the years to come.
Life is a gift because you are in it.
I love you my beautiful girl.
And I'm lucky to be your mama.

Happy Birthday.
xo 

Friday, October 4, 2019

Fall Ready with Cleo + A Giveaway!


Loved selecting this second look featuring new fall favourites by Canadian retailer Cleo.
{In case you missed it - you can see my first look here}.
I'm ALL about these sleeves. And yes, you CAN wear stripes - especially flattering vertical ones.
The pants? Pull-on and super comfortable. Think like a legging, only better.
And if you're like me, one can never have enough black trousers.
#amiright




sunglasses - Prada | sweater - c/o Cleo | pants - c/o Cleo | handbag - Zara | shoes - Vince Camuto
 The fabulous team at Cleo has graciously offered up a chance at a $100 gift card to shop on-line or in one of their many stores across this fair land of ours.

G I V E A W A Y
To Enter: 
Leave me a comment telling me what you might choose if you won.
Lots of additional chances for entry below -
OPEN TO CANADIAN RESIDENTS ONLY
Cleo is celebrating their 40th (!) Birthday with 40% off almost everything in the store!
Shop here now.

Best of Luck.
xox